If you’re struggling to move out of the dreaming and into the doing…

I see you

I feel you

I’m a dreamer too

But in order to become a Creator

You have to do more than just dream.

Why?

Think about it. It’s like making a baby (I’m not really into making babies myself, but it’s a good analogy so, stick with me pls).

You can dream all day long about making a baby, but at some point the sperm has to get to the egg via a type of real world action and collaboration. It’s a long game that requires desire to meet effort, over and over.

But even just desire and effort aren’t enough…you also need the proper time and space to create the right conditions for the results of the creative act to be able to occur, i.e, the womb.

So, you can’t make a baby with just an egg (passive). You also need the sperm (active) and the womb (neutral).

Likewise, you can’t make a lightbulb glow with just the filament. You also need the electrical current and the glass bulb enclosure to create the proper conditions for the glow to occur. Passive, active, and neutral.

Therefore, dreaming is just one of those forces (passive) in the act of creation.

You also need to do (active)

And then you also need the correct conditions within time and space for creating (neutral).

If you are a dreamer who is currently stuck in the dreaming and aren’t really doing anything to bring those dreams out of the clouds and down into the tangible, material world where you can see them brought to life, smell them, taste them, touch them, interact with them…

Then this means you’ve set dreaming as the active force in your daily flow…

And the doing is set passive - because you’re not doing anything! Because you’ve deemed doing any of the correct, real-world, forward-moving actions as inconvenient, annoying, uncomfortable, impossible, etc.

And this is why you are stuck.

When dreaming is set active, you can’t take your head out of the clouds long enough…

to be in the real world long enough…

to clear the proper time and space for bringing your dreams into the real world.

So what you’ll need to do to set the act of dreaming passive…

so it can actually support you in becoming the creative person you want to be…

is actually transform the act of dreaming itself.

This requires you to:

etc.

not forever. Just for long enough to start actually doing something. Anything! That applies the correct, real-world, forward-moving action to the dream itself.

say you have a vision of a painting in your mind. You keep seeing this painting and talking with your friends about how cool it would be to create this painting.

Oh I’d love to be an artist, you say. Someday!

or, I’ll start tomorrow!

or you come up with infinite reasons why now is not the time, despite constantly thinking about it and talking about it.

OR, you might even go out and buy some supplies that you then set amongst your other hobby supplies that you still dream of coming back to learn how to use one day.

What you’re not accepting is that this is going to be hard work, and you’re going to have to do things that you’re not going to feel like doing (like making ugly first sketches).

The first drafts (whether few or several) will be bad. Guaranteed. But you have to start making those first sketches. This is the correct, real-world, forward-moving action being applied to the dream. If you don’t know how to draw, or don’t have the skill level required, your first steps will likely begin with learning something new (and exercising perseverance in the face of less than satisfying first results).

Doing this will bring the act of doing out of passive mode and into active mode, which is why a lot of teachers and coaches repeat the phrase “just do it!” or “just start!” so often, followed by “Keep at it!”.

It’s the ONLY way to get yourself out of the mud. It’s going to be messy. You’re going to have to try a few times to really get the momentum up to become fully unstuck…but if you keep at it, you will get out.

In reality though, this act of transforming the dream and setting doing active takes a lot more than just putting pencil to paper and making a few strokes. There are other correct actions you will need to take to solidify your commitment to becoming a Creator. It will require you to rearrange your entire life, reexamine your beliefs, properly process feelings, and learn to distinguish the voice of your heart from the yammering of your mind, etc….in order to create the proper conditions to actually grow into an artist who paints masterpieces (or whatever type of Creator you’re wanting to become).

This could look like making space in your schedule, changing habits, doing some inner work to learn how to handle your mind and emotions, developing more discipline to keep showing up over and over, traversing beyond your comfort zone…

The process will look different for everyone, because we’re all unique with different dreams and our own set of quirks, limitations, and interesting beliefs about ourselves and the world.

So I’ll share with you another example. This time I’ll tell you…

First, I had to be honest with myself - WHO do I really want to be?, I asked. What am I trying to create?

This took a long time to answer, but finally I said:

💭 I really want to be a teacher. A spiritual teacher. But I want my teachings to be grounded in reality, focused in real-world, day-to-day living…because that’s where we all currently are, and that’s why we are here, and that’s ultimately what spirituality is all about: accepting where you’re currently at and taking responsibility for it so that you can apply your will to make your life better - so that you can then have the ability to co-create a healthier and wealthier world.

Next I had to accept where I’m at - HOW am I not currently this person?, I asked.

💭 I’m not teaching. I don’t have students. I’m not actually doing anything yet, therefore I’m not being it yet. I keep writing about wanting to teach, I keep reading more books and soaking in more knowledge, but I don’t feel confident yet. I don’t feel ready yet.

Then I had to decide… Am I going to become this person? Or not?, I challenged. What do I need to do to get there? What tools do I need?

💭 Yes. This is who I want to be. If I don’t do this, I’ll feel like I’ve wasted my life.

If the only way to become it is to start being it now, then…

I’ve got to read more books-

Do you really?, I challenge.

💭 Actually…no. I’ve been reading the books and I continue to read more books because I don’t feel ready yet. But the reality to accept is that I will never feel ready, and that’s why I’m stuck; stuck in the dreaming, and wishing, and wanting.

The real limitation here is that I’m afraid to step out of my comfort zone. I’m afraid of what others will think of me. I’m afraid of saying something or doing something wrong.

But If I’m ever going to become a teacher, I have to start now.

I have to teach. I have to teach what I know now.

The only way I’m going to get better is to actually start doing it now and keep doing it - that’s why it’s called a practice…because you practice it!

So I need to put myself out there...in the real world…

I need a platform to speak on (newsletter, social media, etc.)

I need to create a class and invite people to be present to hear what I have to say…

So I need a space to make that happen (Google meet, a scheduler, a presentation, etc)

This is where we can begin to determine specifically what needs to be set passive.

In this case, I need to set being a student passive, and set teaching active.

Why? Why do I want to do this?? What’s the BIG reason?, I asked.

💭 As a spiritual teacher I really want to make a big impact in people’s lives, for the better. I want my light to ignite the glittering rays within others, I want my voice to resound an authentic response from others, I want my perspective to be received into the mix to round out the current field of vision into a more complete picture.

I see the people I make an impact on… I see their joy over their solved problems and their new-found confidence in being able to accept all challenges that come their way.

Is that all?, I challenge. What vision comes to mind when you close your eyes and ask your heart what it wants?

💭 When I close my eyes I see myself on a stage in front of an audience full of people standing, smiling, and clapping their hands.

What an interesting vision… I’ve never before desired being on a sta-

What needs to change to make this happen?, I interrupt.

The clarity comes. I speak aloud…

💬 I’m taking action. I’m doing it. I’m a teacher, so I’m teaching.

I’m making a to-do list…

What do I want to teach? I’m writing the topics down. I’m turning them into outlines. I’m writing daily to fill it out.

I’m setting a date in my calendar to teach my first workshop.

A teacher needs a student…so I invite people to my workshop.

I’m scheduling a launch period in advance to send out invitations, giving enough time for people to receive the invitation and respond.

etc.

But I’m starting to feel nervous about all this…

I’m starting to feel anxious about the idea of speaking my ideas aloud in front of people…

💭 What if they don’t like it?

💬 I recognize this pattern. These are thoughts and feelings that get stirred up every time I go to act on an idea I have; every time I actually endeavor to make my dreams real.

This time I acknowledge them. I share my gratitude to my thoughts and feelings for looking out for me and I tell them I can handle this now.

Today we’re moving forward.

Be honest with yourself: Who do you want to be, what do you want to create?

Next, accept where you’re at - How are you not currently this person? Why are you not currently doing what you really want to be doing?

Then DECIDE…CHOOSE…MAKE A CHOICE. This way? 👈 Or that way? 👉 Are you going to become this person or not?

What do you need to do to get there? What is currently active that needs to be set passive? What is passive that needs to become active?

What tools do I need? Align with the correct conditions for this creation to occur.

Is this your real limitation? Is this really what you need to do? Or are you still avoiding the big, fat, hairy elephant 🐘 in the room that just took a huge, smelly dump 💩 on the carpet right in front of the doorway🚪?

Why do you want to do this? Like really, really…What’s the BIG MAGIC reason?

That’s nice. A lovely sentiment. But like, what does your heart really, really want. Close your eyes and ask it. What’s the first vision that comes to mind.

Ehh…was it a bit weird? Are you not sure about it? All good. Go with the very first vision and then ask yourself: What would it take to actually become that person who could do that, have that, be that? Whatever it was. This is your heart speaking ☎️

What needs to change right now to make this possible?

From my heart to yours

Kayla